“Having success or failure in anything you do will be enhanced exponentially by the pre-cursor of your belief!” Belief you may be asking? Do I have to believe in something for it to have a positive effect on me? No, not necessarily, but you do need to have a belief system that allows you to even investigate or try it! Have you ever had someone approach you excitedly with something they or someone they knew had success with? What was your initial “gut” reaction? Our brains are designed to bounce new thoughts, sights, sounds and sensations off of our memories and then categorize it according to how it aligns with our belief of the associated memory. For example your daughter tells you she is going to name your first grandchild Mary – if you have a bad memory of a Mary in grade school that teased you or made you uncomfortable your first “gut’ reaction will be negative – “Oh No, please don’t name her Mary, I remember a Mary in grade school that made my life miserable!” Maybe you have a strong religious affinity to the name Mary and feel honoured that your daughter is going to respect that and name your grandchild Mary. How different your responses would be on a very deep sub-conscious level that you may not even be aware of. This sub-conscious sorting can also prevent you from examining a new idea that might bring you future success.
Do we make rational, conscious decisions based on fact? No! Contrary to our beliefs that we are rational thinkers, a startling experiment showed very different results! A group of randomly chosen people were electronically wired for both heart reaction and brain reaction. They were then shown a computer randomly mixed group of pictures of either negative or positive photos. Guess what reacted first the brain or the heart for the majority of pictures? You guessed it… the heart! The incredibly amazing results of this experiment caused the scientists conducting the study to re-evaluate their entire thesis. Not only did the heart react before the brain but the heart reacted most times in complete appropriateness (negative reaction to negative picture – positive reaction to positive picture) BEFORE the picture was flashed on the screen! How is that possible? We know that we are energetically created and that we communicate through our feelings, emotions and energy so how does this understanding change the way we think about our belief system? Your belief systems are really tied into your emotional experiences. I mentioned above the emotional ties to names but what other emotional ties can you uncover? A profound statement by Lou Tice of The Pacific Institute* several years ago caused me to really re-examine the truth of my belief systems. The statement made was that: “We act and behave not in accordance to the truth but the truth as we believe it to be” Can we “trust” our emotions to perceive “truth”? What are some ways that you can start to examine your perceived truths, alter them to align with a fact based truth and allow yourself to be open to examining new ideas before you emotionally push them away? Step #1 is to believe that you don’t know the truth. The minute you decide you are undecided you open up to being able to examine and search for what you will ultimately believe to be the truth. The moment you choose to believe the truth is A over B then you emotionally shut down any new information entering your mind that would be contrary to supporting A. Have you experienced in your life journey that you have “chosen” to believe in a certain methodology, business option, choice of lifestyle or faith? So what happens when you read an article, hear about a opportunity or are exposed to a new idea that is contrary to your chosen belief? I find it very interesting to read people’s comments on book reviews, forums, YouTube videos and posted articles. Go through yourself and see if you can recognize the belief position they are coming from – positive, negative, open to change, closed to change? Step #2 Examine your current beliefs. How do you do that when so many beliefs are buried or emotionally triggered? “Learn to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.” If you constantly stay in your “Comfort Zones” you will never challenge yourself to examine your beliefs. Try walking into a store catering to teenagers if you are middle aged with no teenagers in your life. Does the blaring music irritate you? Are you frustrated by the disorganized loud displays? Do you find it hard to relate to the tattooed, pierced sales staff with weird attire? If you are young try walking into an upscale, snooty mid-life clothing store where the sales staff turn up their noses as you walk in the store or call you “dear”, the music puts you to sleep and the clothes are dull and shapeless. How do you feel? Now try preparing yourself before you enter those stores with the thought process that this is an adventure and you really want to experience a different “culture”. You want to see what music works for that culture, what types of organization, displays work, how the sales staff portray themselves. Pretend that you are going in to buy into that particular store and you need to understand and know what your target audience wants. How much more open would you be to learning? Would you shop there yourself? Probably not but you can still learn to be comfortable in your discomfort and open yourself to understanding a new thought, idea, culture. Challenge yourself to read a new theory, examine a new idea or investigate a change in your lifestyle from the perspective that you want to learn for yourself. Am I suggesting that you spend 24 hours a day trying something new? No, not at all but I have seen many people who claim they want to be free of a concern but when offered a solution that has worked for others they put up their resistant steel walls and refuse to even acknowledge that it might help them. Let down your resistance by acknowledging that you do not know the truth about everything and allow your emotional belief system to open the door for you to examine. When you do run up against an emotional trigger point – step back and examine it to see what memory triggered that emotion. Do you trigger whenever someone tells you something in a superior or know-it-all fashion? Does that trigger a feeling of inferiority, anger or fear of looking unknowledgeable? Examine your “gut’ reaction emotion and ask yourself what past experience you associated with that reaction. You may peal away layers and layers of experiences and find that it was your 2nd grade teacher who made you feel inferior because you could not read well in class. You may find it has nothing at all to do with this person today or the topic they are trying to share with you. When you can peel back and examine some of those “triggers” you may open up amazing new doors for yourself emotionally as you let go of those associated feelings that block you emotionally as an adult. Step #3 Examine the truth of your truths. Once you begin to take the emotional triggers away you will be in a much better position to actually examine if your perception of that truth is indeed based on the truth as you would understand it today. For example – maybe you don’t believe in a certain business model or industry because you have had a negative experience with that particular business or industry. Every time you hear of someone having success or you are offered an opportunity within that industry you immediately turn it "thumbs down"! The truth may be that some have been successful and maybe others have not. If you ate at a restaurant that served you food you did not like would you never again eat at any restaurant? No... you would recognize that some restaurants are better than others or more appealing to you than others but... you could also recognize that others may have had a different experience than yours and may have loved the food at the same restaurant you did not like. Our personal experience of "the truth" can be a huge stumbling block to believing that someone else’s experience can also be the truth. Be brave, be adventurous, search for the true truth and be open to the fact that your truth may be your own “perceived’ truth. Take Joy in the Journey! Barb Barbara Gluckman
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